Adoption Rollercoaster

Well this week has been an EMOTIONAL rollercoaster. We were told on Monday that a birthmother that looked at our profile chose another family but the agency wanted to show our profile to another mom. We told them okay and were told that they would call us back on Wednesday to let us know. On Tuesday afternoon we got a call saying that the birthmom had chose our profile and would like to set up a conference call with us on Thursday. We were also told that this baby was going to be born on April 16th by c-section and was even told what time this was going to happen. We were so excited thinking that in 2 weeks we could be adding another child to our family. We had the conference call on Thursday. I was a nervous wreck, but Travis seemed quite calm. We talked to "Danika" for approximately 20 minutes. She wasn't real talkative, but seemed friendly. The case worker from the agency called us back after the conference call and said that Danika thought we were a very nice family and wanted to sleep on her decision and would let us know on Friday morning what was going on. At noon on Friday I called the agency and was told that Danika wanted to set up another conference call with us on Monday just to talk some more. We were totally fine with this and set up a call for Monday at 5:30 pm. Then on Friday afternoon I got another call from the agency stating that Dankia just didn't feel right about our situation and was going to do something else. That was kind of a shock, but we really feel like OUR BABY will come to us when he is supposed too. I had to tell our kids that the baby that was supposed to be born in 2 weeks was not going to be coming to our family. They were a little sad at first, but seem fine now. I think from now on we will wait to tell them anything until it is really going to happen. Anyways, we are totally fine with her decision. I can't imagine what goes thru a birthmother's mind as she is picking a family to raise and love her baby. But this is really what has me a little frustrated. While I was on the phone with the agency on Friday, I was told that there was another birthmother that they would like to show our profile too, but the cost would be a little more. I asked why and was told that because this baby was 3/4 African American and 1/4 Caucasian that the cost would go up $5,500. WHAT???? I thought a baby was a baby no matter what color of skin he had!! We told the agency that we would pass on that one and asked if there were any other situations. I was told that the only other one right now was a birthmother who had a schizophraniac (sp?) brother. Travis and I were a little nervous about that and decided to pass on that one too. Anyways I just had to vent. I've enjoyed working with the agency we're with, but I just don't get their view on charging different prices depending on the baby's skin color. I'll keep everyone updated.